Divorced Life

4rd iteration of my divorce degree in the mail today. Called the “NEX” and let him know they were there. He has no phone….got to talk to the girlfriend last night which was a new experience. Feeling like my life is about to start…but boy is the finishing up of the old one draining! Tried not to go to court…have given in and given in so I am hoping he will finally sign today. Sending prayers to the divorce gods…..

With the recent events in Minneapolis yesterday. I don’t feel comfortable discussing divorce issues when there is such pain, and sorrow in the lives of the family’s who have suffered such a nightmare. Divorce is something we bring upon ourselves, this event hit the innocent.

  This tragedy is something you only see in the movies and not in real life.  I would like to reflect on the events  of yesterday and send my condolences to the victims and their family’s. 

God may be invisble, but He’s in touch. You may not be able to see Him, but He is in control . And that includes what you just lost. That includes what you’ve just gained. That includes, all of life–past, present, future.

 –Charles Swindoll

Britney Spears and Federline divorce MAY BE final, but that does not keep them out of the news. The lovely divorced couple WHO  decided to share custody of their two children MAKE make ME want to throw-up!

Their whole marriage was ridiculous from the start… He is your typical money grubber, and she is the insecure star who thinks she needs a man to make her whole.

She had to realize all he was interested IN WAS HER BANK ACCOUNT, and a way for him to make it in La, La Land.

I hope she straightens her life out for her kid’s sake. I really don’t need to see her razor-burn hooch any time soon.

Britney may have jeopardized her custody agreement with Federline. Recently the pop star took her children to the Zoo in

Rapper Eminen’s ex-wife, is suing him for a million dollars. The estranged couples, nuptials only lasted three months according to, Digital Spy. This is the couples second time around with each other; looks like it’s going to be another nasty divorce.  

What makes a couple dive into a marriage head first especially when it did not work-out the first time? If I knew the answer to that question, I would be in the millions myself.

 When there is money involved in a marriage a prenuptial agreement is not an option it’s a necessity. 

I wish that weren’t the case, but this is the real world, and there are people out there that make money their life’s pursuit.  

I’m always open to finding that special rich someone! Does that make me a money grubber, sure it does. But, I’ve been on the other end of the receiving line, and money sure looks a lot sweeter.

A four story home was destroyed in

Ann Heche gets the footstool, and blue chest  in her divorce settlement.  Something is wrong here. The judge in the case says she is entitled to some furniture. Her estrange husband, Coley Laffoon claims the Men in Tree’s star stole some furniture from the couples home.

Better than I got , I managed to get $5o.00 a month!!!! 

But, Ann Heche is not all there. Check out this U-tube where Barbara Walter interviews her.

Those life insurance policies meant to go to your spouse while married need to be changed now.

A recent U. S. Supreme Court ruling (Egelhoff v. Egelhoff) makes this a potential cause for concern.

This could also raise concerns that your children may be left out of policies if your ex-spouse was not removed from the original insurance or pension plan.

If the unfortunate happens, and you are killed in a motor vehicle accident your children will not be the beneficiaries.

 Word of Caution

Change your insurance plans, and your pensions, IRA’s, any Money Market, Bonds  ASAP. Do this to ensure your children are protected, do it at once!

 REMOVE YOUR EX SPOUSE, AND SEPARATED SPOUSE ASAP! 

 DON’T LET YOUR CHILDREN BE LEFT IN THE COLD. MAKE SURE YOU INCLUDE ALL YOUR CHILDREN AND CHILDREN FROM PRECIOUS MARRIAGES!

I genuinely believe just maybe divorced parents can get along with each other. But, again I am naive , and made a fool of myself . My ex never can see anything past his own nose.

I tried to openly discuss some issues with him regarding our youngest son yesterday evening, and again he has made me feel that everything is always my fault. He has a way of making me feel as if something is wrong with me.

 I was almost convinced he was truly trying to be a good parent. He must be afraid that people may discover what a self-centered person he really is.

Why do I let him get to me?  He expressed how sorry he was  for hurting me, and my family, and then he turned around, and told my mother that his son has only two parents, and she should mind her own business. I’m the only one who can speak to my mother that way. How dare him !

My supportive parents have given up their golden years for our children, and that’s the thanks they get;  he should of just spit in my mother’s face.

I only hope someday he will come to realize the kind of man he truly is.
What a fool I’ve been trying to be a good Christian, and forgive him for all the pain he has caused my sons and me..

If there were a test you had to take before you were permitted to have children, I’m sure he would have failed!

Lindsay Lohan did it again with a DUI, and cocaine possession. She was arrested in Santa Monica after a night of partying with some friends.Lindsay, why on earth didn’t you get a personal driver. Lord knows you can afford one. But, can Lohan afford to spend months behind bars. Addiction tends to runs in the family. Lindsay’s father Micheal Lohan spent two years in prison for driving intoxicated.In an exclusive interview with E, Micheal Lohan said , “When we were a close family , did you see any of this, it was not until our family was torn apart.”

Lohan blames his messy divorce, and custody battle on Lindsays addiction. I strongly disagree with this completely. If that were the case every divorced young adult would be spending their nights stoned and incapacitated.

That does not give our youth any credit. The problems is that these young adults are over privilege, and too rich for their own good. They can’t handle the tremendous pressure, and money at such a young age.

To blame the break-up of their family on Lohan’s addictions is a cop-out. These young adults who have so much at their fingertips need to eventually take responsibility and wise up.

  An Australian study says that family history plays a crucial role in whether you will divorce. If your parents split you run twice as much unavoidable risk going through a divorce. Thank goodness there is not a gene for divorce, however the apple does not far from the tree. If there is no gene associated with divorce than it is environmental. I disagree with this study because, wouldn’t make sense to be more cautious if ones parents were divorced. Hopefully off springs of divorced parents would not jump into a marriage without seriously looking at the pro’s and con’s of marriage. I would genuinely suppose they would try and not make the same mistake their parents made. According to Dr. Stephen Stansfeld , professor of psychiatry at Barts, and London, Queen Mary’s School of Medicine says, people who’s parents went through a divorce as children may unconsciously be attracted to mates with similar experiences.  This in  fact raises their odds of being divorced themselves.   I feel it’s so important that people who plan on getting married have pre-marital counseling before they make such a serious commitment. There are so many pre- marriage courses couples can take to prepare themselves for marriage . I believe the best prevention is education. When all else fails get Tony Soprano to fix things up.