Divorced Life

A four story home was destroyed in

Ann Heche gets the footstool, and blue chest  in her divorce settlement.  Something is wrong here. The judge in the case says she is entitled to some furniture. Her estrange husband, Coley Laffoon claims the Men in Tree’s star stole some furniture from the couples home.

Better than I got , I managed to get $5o.00 a month!!!! 

But, Ann Heche is not all there. Check out this U-tube where Barbara Walter interviews her.

Those life insurance policies meant to go to your spouse while married need to be changed now.

A recent U. S. Supreme Court ruling (Egelhoff v. Egelhoff) makes this a potential cause for concern.

This could also raise concerns that your children may be left out of policies if your ex-spouse was not removed from the original insurance or pension plan.

If the unfortunate happens, and you are killed in a motor vehicle accident your children will not be the beneficiaries.

 Word of Caution

Change your insurance plans, and your pensions, IRA’s, any Money Market, Bonds  ASAP. Do this to ensure your children are protected, do it at once!

 REMOVE YOUR EX SPOUSE, AND SEPARATED SPOUSE ASAP! 

 DON’T LET YOUR CHILDREN BE LEFT IN THE COLD. MAKE SURE YOU INCLUDE ALL YOUR CHILDREN AND CHILDREN FROM PRECIOUS MARRIAGES!

I genuinely believe just maybe divorced parents can get along with each other. But, again I am naive , and made a fool of myself . My ex never can see anything past his own nose.

I tried to openly discuss some issues with him regarding our youngest son yesterday evening, and again he has made me feel that everything is always my fault. He has a way of making me feel as if something is wrong with me.

 I was almost convinced he was truly trying to be a good parent. He must be afraid that people may discover what a self-centered person he really is.

Why do I let him get to me?  He expressed how sorry he was  for hurting me, and my family, and then he turned around, and told my mother that his son has only two parents, and she should mind her own business. I’m the only one who can speak to my mother that way. How dare him !

My supportive parents have given up their golden years for our children, and that’s the thanks they get;  he should of just spit in my mother’s face.

I only hope someday he will come to realize the kind of man he truly is.
What a fool I’ve been trying to be a good Christian, and forgive him for all the pain he has caused my sons and me..

If there were a test you had to take before you were permitted to have children, I’m sure he would have failed!

Lindsay Lohan did it again with a DUI, and cocaine possession. She was arrested in Santa Monica after a night of partying with some friends.Lindsay, why on earth didn’t you get a personal driver. Lord knows you can afford one. But, can Lohan afford to spend months behind bars. Addiction tends to runs in the family. Lindsay’s father Micheal Lohan spent two years in prison for driving intoxicated.In an exclusive interview with E, Micheal Lohan said , “When we were a close family , did you see any of this, it was not until our family was torn apart.”

Lohan blames his messy divorce, and custody battle on Lindsays addiction. I strongly disagree with this completely. If that were the case every divorced young adult would be spending their nights stoned and incapacitated.

That does not give our youth any credit. The problems is that these young adults are over privilege, and too rich for their own good. They can’t handle the tremendous pressure, and money at such a young age.

To blame the break-up of their family on Lohan’s addictions is a cop-out. These young adults who have so much at their fingertips need to eventually take responsibility and wise up.

  An Australian study says that family history plays a crucial role in whether you will divorce. If your parents split you run twice as much unavoidable risk going through a divorce. Thank goodness there is not a gene for divorce, however the apple does not far from the tree. If there is no gene associated with divorce than it is environmental. I disagree with this study because, wouldn’t make sense to be more cautious if ones parents were divorced. Hopefully off springs of divorced parents would not jump into a marriage without seriously looking at the pro’s and con’s of marriage. I would genuinely suppose they would try and not make the same mistake their parents made. According to Dr. Stephen Stansfeld , professor of psychiatry at Barts, and London, Queen Mary’s School of Medicine says, people who’s parents went through a divorce as children may unconsciously be attracted to mates with similar experiences.  This in  fact raises their odds of being divorced themselves.   I feel it’s so important that people who plan on getting married have pre-marital counseling before they make such a serious commitment. There are so many pre- marriage courses couples can take to prepare themselves for marriage . I believe the best prevention is education. When all else fails get Tony Soprano to fix things up.

This is turning out to be a day from hell. My Internet connection was not working, my sons are driving me !  I am fat, over forty and feeling it today.

Ive come to the conclusion everybody has it better than me, and I’m sick of it. Things need to change , hopefully soon . I need a vacation somewhere far, far away. It has to be warm with blue skies, and  there has to be beautiful tan, muscular young men to serve my every need .

I can dream can’t I.

Ok, I feel better now… I just needed to vent. 

How do you deal with a pissed off teenage son who can’t stand their father?  That’s a good question. 

 I’m having a tough time figuring that one out. Most of the people I’ve spoke with tell me it has to run its course– similar to a stomach virus. Others say it will never change.

When a parent-teenager relationship is damaged hopefully the teenager will learn from their relationship with their parent, and not travel down that narrow road when they have children of their own. That’s what I’m hoping for my son.

As a parent, all we can do is listen, and be there for them. It’s a big challenge for me being the other parent. I have to learn to keep my mouth shut. I’m not going to deny that I have failed this area many times.

It’s a hard job setting a good example for a young man when you’re a woman. It’s even tougher when the other parent in question is a man-whore. Now, did that come out of my mouth! 

No matter how old your son/daughter  is they still want their father in their life.This is for all the selfish father’s out there.

JK Rowling Launches Seventh,and Final Harry Potter Book.   

 The Final Harry Potter Book hits the bookstores this morning at 12.00 a.m..

 The end to a fairtale come true for its

author J. K .

This is a real life rags to riches story.  After a divorce J. K Rowlings was determined to get her wizard story published.  She spend hours writing on napkins while her child played.

Harry Potter has made a fortune for its creator. If you believe in something  long enough anything  thing is possible.

I bet her ex is kicking himself now!

My day had just begun , and nothing was out of the ordinary except my son’s were going to the Pirate game with their uncle.

I was going to work for a few hours, and then try to get started on my final projects for my graduate courses.

Just as I was going to sit down, and get started, I noticed a message on my recorder.  It was my dear friend Nina. We have been friends since high school ; she was calling me to let me know that the house I grew up in was for sale.

Before I knew it, we were going to see it. It was the strangest, nostalgic day I’ve ever experienced. The event was surreal. There was fog over my eyes not letting me see what was really there , I saw what my mind wanted me to see.

It felt, as though I was in a time machine. The furniture was different, but the heart of this house was still there. It frightened me in a way I can’t explain– it was trying to tell me never to forget.

The moment I drove up the driveway, and stepped out of my car, I felt an eerie feeling embrace me.

As I walked up the steps leading to the front door I held on to the metal railing– I felt the chipped paint that once was white.

My father always took, so much care making sure it never peeled. My legs felt heavy, and fatigued; I did not expect to feel this way.

When I held my hand out to turn the front door knob, I suddenly felt the air get thick– my lungs would not expand, and for a moment I could not catch my breath.

I had an overwhelming feeling hit me with force; it was a rush of intense emotions– emotions that I was unprepared for feeling, sadness, joy, happiness, and regret.

My senses could not absorb it all. Each room brought back a memory– a glimpse into the past; a flashback of a life once lived.

I pictured my mom standing over the kitchen table mixing chocolate chip cookie dough. I could see the big, yellow mixing bowl.

I saw her wrapping presents for Christmas in the living room.

I saw my father coming in the back door after work, carrying his thermos filled with coffee; his work boots coated in mud.

I heard my beloved German Shepherd’s bark.

I heard my grandmother’s horn from her car, as she pulled in the driveway, bringing a bakery box filled with cookies. I could hear the echo’s of laughter, and the whispers of sorrow fade through the walls painted in a different shade.

I saw the white limo waiting for me to take me to my wedding.

 I saw the policeman watching my ex as he placed my children in my arms a night of worry put to rest ; it was one of many nights  he did not bring them back after his visit. I heard their cry’s, and saw their tear’s.

I smelled the cedar closet that once held my late brothers clothe’s.

I saw the laughter, tear, the fights–childhood moments turn to teenage, but most of all–I saw the love, and memories of a family.

It was just an ordinary day filled with shades of the past.